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One of the great skill to learn in the 21st century is the ability to start from a blank canvas. Meaning, doing your own thinking. Every great innovations during the last 15 years were born from completely new ideas which disrupted the status quo.
Leaders of the 21st century are those with the ability to construct new ideas from emerging technologies and connections.
Make it a habit of exploring and developing your own ideas. Sure, look around for inspiration but start from a blank slate.
To practice your creativity, instead of reading blog posts of top 6 rules for happiness or 8 ways to lose weight. Make up your own lists. You'll be surprise to often end up with better lists than the ones you find on the web.
Small gestures get recognize. When someone around you does a little something special for you, I sure hope you thank them for their attention and service.
Other times you do those little things for others and receive that little praise. Bizarrely, we often don't know how to respond to that kind of positive feedback.
A lot of times we end up brushing it off with statements like...
"Ah, don't worry about it, it was nothing."
"Bah. You'd do the same."
or even worst...
"No worries, I was going to do it anyway."
What a way to tell the other they're not important and that their nice comment don't really matter to us. I know what you're thinking... I don't want to brag or sound arrogant. It's fine to be modest but brushing away positive comments like this will make the other person feel a bit disappointed.
There's one simple way to respond and that's by saying...
That's all. If you feel inspired you can even go the extra mile with...
"Thanks, it was a pleasure."
There's no need for further explanations. This simple responds let them know you're thankful that they noticed your effort and that you appreciate their positive feedback.
Now go do someone a favor so that you can practice this little trick.
The story other people tell about you is none of your business. It's never going to be a true story because no one knows you like you do. But...
It's your responsibility to guide that narrative towards the story you want others to remember.
Become aware of the actions you take consistently and how people perceive the way you interact with them. Are you always on time? Do you always respond quickly? Do you always pay attention to details? Or are you careless, unreliable and inconsistent?
The key is to be consistent in your action.
What are the key things do you want others to say about you?
The first step is to know how you want to be perceived and then you need to adapt your actions accordingly.
The collateral benefit of doing this is that the clearer your actions are the better you will feel about yourself. The more consistent you are in your actions the less stressed you'll become because you'll develop a clarity in your daily actions.
Starting new projects or endeavors is fun. We get all excited about what we can accomplish and how exciting it'll be once we've completed our new project. After a while things get a little complicated and our little project doesn't go as planned and then...
There are two negative reactions I often see when people talk about improving their life.
First is the assumption that people who wants to improve are unhappy with themselves. Improvement shouldn't be seen as an attempt to get ourselves out of an unwanted place. It's the joy of improving and getting better which makes humans happy. There's a sense of joy which comes out of accomplishments.
Nowadays focus is becoming harder and harder to reach. We have distractions all around us fighting for our attention. How to find focus with so much noise around us?
The first thing to do in order to achieve focus is to prioritize yourself. To find ways to disconnect, you need to let go of the world around you.
After a discussion with Emilie, my life partner, this morning we concluded that many people live in fear of apprehension. But most of the time this fear is caused by their own doing.
Mostly because of dishonesty. With ourselves and others.
A small reflection... yesterday (a.k.a. Thursday) morning, I came across a co-worker and we started the usual chatter but he goes on saying- I'm good but I just found out we're not Friday, that kidda killed my good mood. Like I said, just a reflection. How happy can you be when you're disappointed to find out you have one more day to live than you thought?