We all have highs and lows surrounded by ordinary living. We'd go crazy if we would always stay in either highs or lows. But many times, wouldn't it be great to be able to simply switch to your happy state, or focused state?
There are techniques for that. But before you can use any techniques to bring back any state or emotions, you first need to know how it feels to be in that state. You can't make this up. No matter how hard you try, you'll never really know how it feels to stand on the top of Mount Everest until you stand on top of Mount Everest.
Here are three things everyone should start to do
- Experience more
- Pay close attention to how you are feeling, especially when you feel great
- Take notes about those great experiences so that you can remember them and come back to them
For example, in my last article I discussed how passionate I was about my woodworking projects. This is a state I want to remember and will most probably come back to later.
There's a hidden meaning in genuine apologies whether you receive them or give them.
The act itself is noble, you did something you feel was wrong which may have hurt someone hence you apologize.
But that's only the surface reason for an apology.
Underneath, the foremost factor which made you think about apologizing was that you cared for the other person enough to worry about how they are feeling.
So when someone apologizes to you for anything they have done, thank them happily for caring enough about you to worry about how you feel and thinking about you outside of your regular environment. A sincere apology is crafted when the mind is at peace, usually at night or during a moment of solitude.
And also, don't hold back on apologies yourself. Even if sometimes you feel the other person may not mind or doesn't seem bothered. They may be bothered without showing any signs. But foremost, the gesture that you care is worth even more.
The moment you step out into the world and interact with others your actions and you will be judged. Both positively and negatively. Either way, there's not much you can do about it once you hear those comments afterward. What's done is done, right? Yes, but why do we get defensive when faced with negative comments and worry so much about what people may think?
The need to justify yourself is a bad feeling which only affects you in negative ways. It creates conflicts with others and increases anxiety level. Why do we feel the need to justify our actions?
There are many reasons but the biggest contributing reason is low self-esteem. If you find yourself being defensive, try to see why and most of the time you'll find that need to be understood and accepted by others. It's a very common reaction and in fact, acceptance is sought by everyone.
The cure is simple in the case of low self-esteem when facing reactions from actions you have done. Simply do the following...
Do your best with good intentions. Then forget the rest.
If you know you've done your best, no comments on your efforts can bother you because you've done all you could. Remember a time when you became very defensive and chances are that you defended something you know you could have done better.
Next part is with act good intentions. Same principle as above, if you know that within your knowledge you did all you did with good intention then no comments on your motives or plan can touch you.
Finally, forget the rest. The important thing is to act, no action is going to please everyone. From the start, know this truth. It will liberate you from anything that may arise later.
As a final word, remember that others are allowed their opinions. Most of the time these opinions are not meant to harm you but to help you become better. Remember they're just that, opinions. You decide what to do with them. One thing's sure, they won't bother you anymore.
If there's one skill everyone should work on consistently is to learn to start from a blank page. We all have the required creativity in us to create outstanding things but we are scared to create. Instead, we use templates or copy from somebody else (with minor adjustments of course) because it feels safe.
One of the great skill to learn in the 21st century is the ability to start from a blank canvas. Meaning, doing your own thinking. Every great innovations during the last 15 years were born from completely new ideas which disrupted the status quo.
Small gestures get recognize. When someone around you does a little something special for you, I sure hope you thank them for their attention and service.
Other times you do those little things for others and receive that little praise. Bizarrely, we often don't know how to respond to that kind of positive feedback.
There are two negative reactions I often see when people talk about improving their life.
First is the assumption that people who wants to improve are unhappy with themselves. Improvement shouldn't be seen as an attempt to get ourselves out of an unwanted place. It's the joy of improving and getting better which makes humans happy. There's a sense of joy which comes out of accomplishments.
Nowadays focus is becoming harder and harder to reach. We have distractions all around us fighting for our attention. How to find focus with so much noise around us?
The first thing to do in order to achieve focus is to prioritize yourself. To find ways to disconnect, you need to let go of the world around you.
After a discussion with Emilie, my life partner, this morning we concluded that many people live in fear of apprehension. But most of the time this fear is caused by their own doing.
Mostly because of dishonesty. With ourselves and others.
One week into the new year. I hope you still haven't dropped your resolutions, if you made any. If you didn't, now wouldn't be too late. As you'll see in Tony Robbins' video, making big improvements in your life doesn't necessarily requires big changes. Small habit changes over time will compound into massive improvements. The key here is consistency. I'm also sharing a great app to help with the consistency part. On that, great weekend to all. 2017 will be a great year!
It's the last day of 2016. Do you have your plan ready for 2017? Last week I've shared books I find helpful and today I'm sharing one tool to help you get the most of your new year resolutions. Plus the Canvas Strategy to help you get the right mindset for years to come. Enjoy, and see you next year!
We’re only a few days before Christmas and New Year just around the corner. What does that mean? First, use this time to spend quality time with your family and friends. Second, this is the time to reflect on what happened this year and to plan out next year.
Yesterday, I re-arranged my whole office library. So I decided to pick 3 books I’d recommend you read. All 3 books serve a different purpose so I’d recommend you read them in the order they’re presented.
It's been a very busy week for me, I admit the tricks in the double your productivity video helped me to not become overwhelmed. I found some neat health tricks from Dr. Mehmet Oz in my journal. And I'm loving the little bit of info I found on Instagram, I think I'm going to print it and display it somewhere.
All gems from this week can be used in many ways to make 2017 a better year. With 2016 coming to an end soon, it's time to start pondering on how we want to shape our next year. It's important to start thinking about that and not let another year to simply pass by.
This morning I was pondering over the process of life improvement. When I look back at my life (years and years back), I can see how far I've traveled. Not a round the world but within myself. How much I've improved. I thought about all that I've done to change so much over the years. It's simpler than you think.
As usual, here's a few gems of positive information I've found this week. Or in the case of the catcher's mitt metaphor a gem that I rediscovered. Great weekend to all!
Hall of fame coach, John Wooden, is front page of the Success magazine for the month of November, his life philosophy is one of the best you'll find based on passion, harmony, wisdom and love. I've seen a lot on him in the past weeks and like what I'm hearing. I particularly love his definition of success, which you can read below, because it's personal to each individual and doesn't include any reference to wealth or status. His definition of success is applicable to anyone, no matter the circumstance.
This week, I’m focusing on a single theme. Climbing. I’m no climber and when asked if I’d ever set climbing the Everest as a goal my response was “Hell no! I’m way too chicken for that!”
But I love climbing stories. There are many lessons to learn from mountain climbing and those who attempts to conquer the highest peaks on earth.
"Happiness is not an accident. Nor is it something you wish for. Happiness is something you design." - Jim Rohn
“Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much” - Oscar Wilde
Here's a short list, probably a reminder, of what it takes to build good character. Only 6 simple things but as with everything Jim Rohn teaches, simple in concept doesn't mean simple in execution.
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Today (and every day for that matter) take some time to be thankful for everything you have. Because fear and anger cannot co-exist with appreciation and thankfulness. Make the choice to live a life of appreciation, it'll help you in difficult time and make everyday better.
I hope you're pumped for the weekend! From what I've uncovered this week, you'll won't be wishing for a great weekend but be ready to have it. Plus you'll see the benefit of paying attention to what you do, what you wear and how you talk just to name a few things. Have a super weekend!!!
A little bit of everything this week. This weekend is a good time to embrace your flawsomeness! While Tony Robbins discusses his morning ritual with Oprah.
A couple weeks ago I shared my list of favourite books that I read in 2015. I hope you enjoyed the list and got a few reading ideas from it. Now I’m always grabbing reading ideas everywhere. There's a thousand books, at least, I’d love to read.
Negativity will kill your hopes for a better life. Just imagine planting two trees, one with full exposure to the morning sun and the benefit of the rain and a second tree where it’s covered in shadows most of the day and only some water find its way to nourish the roots.
My Hawaiian friend, Dennis, recently asked me if there were benefits to reading books versus articles or magazines. I thought it was an interesting questions since I read both books and magazines. I enjoy both but each offers me a different experience.
I want to share one of the most inspiring person I know. Jim Rohn. I honestly don't know a lot about him and his life journey. Only that he was broke at age 25 and rich at age 31 and then went on a journey to share his philosophy of success. But one thing I know for sure is that his life philosophy really resonate with me.
When we were kids we all relied on our parents to validate who we were. To tell us our good and bad sides. To love and nurture us. But as adults these needs keeps us from growing further. Relying on others to fulfill our lives will not only slow your own growth but it will also push away your friends.
I'll share with you a three word statement which changed the way I did things day to day. I first heard it from a Joe Navaro conference I watched years ago. It really caught my attention and I started using the concept in my day to day life. But it's only a year later that I really saw the full potential of Navaro's statement.
Every successful person has one thing in common. They do hard work while unsuccessful people watch TV. Behind every success is hundreds of hours of tiny little tasks, often mundane and boring which accumulate to great things. I often find it hard to motivate myself to do those little tasks and you may have the same struggle. Following my 3 simple steps will help you become an accomplished achiever.
Like everybody else, you want to be better. Get rid of all those bad habits, you know which one they are but so hard to take away. What if there was a tool to help you defeat those bad habits.
It so happens that such a tool exists.
Here's a very very short list of books I think everyone should read. Of course, it is not the only books you have to read and this is my list of books to read now. Next year I'll have a new list, because life is evolving. I think the following three books have one thing in common, they'll all change the way you see life in there very unique way.