Your subconscious mind works in a very interesting way. It's the part of you which guides where your attention goes when you don't pay attention. That is most of the time.
That's a lot of power given to the part of your mind you don't control. Or can you have control over it?
Let me show you with a personal story happening to me right now. In this very moment, I'm deeply excited about a woodworking project that I'm starting. I've watched videos, read tips and tricks, and looked at many ideas online and in stores. Most of my attention, voluntary attention, as gone to woodworking the past days.
So here's what happened.
Yesterday, it seems my subconscious caught up on what I wanted to focus on. Every time during the day that my conscious attention was going away, which is perfectly normal for everyone to drift away from consciousness every once in a while, my subconscious mind would attempt to guide my actions towards learning more about my woodworking project. For example, I'd needed to do a search on Google and you know the infinitely long 9 seconds it takes to open the browser and go to Google, that small lapse of time is just enough time to disconnect the conscious thinking. Your body is designed to save energy and conscious thinking takes up a lot of energy. So after waiting for eternity, a.k.a. 9 seconds, my subconscious mind takes over and types "DIY Woodworking Ideas" in the search box. It's only 10 minutes later that my conscious mind finally wakes up and says "Wait a minute, wasn't I supposed to search for something when I opened Google?"
It's a long story and you were probably screaming "WAKE UP!" at me. Of course, to you, it seemed like my mind was totally controlling me and I was day dreaming or something. You're most probably not into woodworking right now, my subconscious actions look bizarre and possibly dumb from your perspective.
I got engulfed in the woodworking search because that's what my general focus has been. The good thing is that it's a positive learning habit that I am happy my subconscious mind helps me with at the moment.
But the subconscious mind doesn't care about positive or negative habits. It only cares about guiding you where you want your attention to go.
What if you always put your attention on negative habits, like checking Social Media or worst gossiping or even worst complaining? What will your subconscious have you do when you drift away from consciousness, which we all do all the time?
The things you decide to consciously pay attention to greatly affect your subconscious and your future. Watch negative news and you'll see negativity everywhere. Read on celebrity gossips and you'll be seeking the same drama in your life. So be careful.
As Earl Nightingale puts it.
We become what we think about.
The moment you step out into the world and interact with others your actions and you will be judged. Both positively and negatively. Either way, there's not much you can do about it once you hear those comments afterward. What's done is done, right? Yes, but why do we get defensive when faced with negative comments and worry so much about what people may think?
The need to justify yourself is a bad feeling which only affects you in negative ways. It creates conflicts with others and increases anxiety level. Why do we feel the need to justify our actions?
There are many reasons but the biggest contributing reason is low self-esteem. If you find yourself being defensive, try to see why and most of the time you'll find that need to be understood and accepted by others. It's a very common reaction and in fact, acceptance is sought by everyone.
The cure is simple in the case of low self-esteem when facing reactions from actions you have done. Simply do the following...
Do your best with good intentions. Then forget the rest.
If you know you've done your best, no comments on your efforts can bother you because you've done all you could. Remember a time when you became very defensive and chances are that you defended something you know you could have done better.
Next part is with act good intentions. Same principle as above, if you know that within your knowledge you did all you did with good intention then no comments on your motives or plan can touch you.
Finally, forget the rest. The important thing is to act, no action is going to please everyone. From the start, know this truth. It will liberate you from anything that may arise later.
As a final word, remember that others are allowed their opinions. Most of the time these opinions are not meant to harm you but to help you become better. Remember they're just that, opinions. You decide what to do with them. One thing's sure, they won't bother you anymore.
If there's one skill everyone should work on consistently is to learn to start from a blank page. We all have the required creativity in us to create outstanding things but we are scared to create. Instead, we use templates or copy from somebody else (with minor adjustments of course) because it feels safe. Safe because if what we produce fails then it's not really our creation. Our fault.
The problem is that it cannot truly succeed either. In order to make a difference, you have to create. And the best way to create is to start with a blank canvas.
Gather information, read, watch, and observe from as many sources as you can and then put it all together in your own personal way.
Set forth on your own journey.
Create your own life, not someone else's life.
Small gestures get recognize. When someone around you does a little something special for you, I sure hope you thank them for their attention and service.
Other times you do those little things for others and receive that little praise. Bizarrely, we often don't know how to respond to that kind of positive feedback.
Starting new projects or endeavors is fun. We get all excited about what we can accomplish and how exciting it'll be once we've completed our new project. After a while things get a little complicated and our little project doesn't go as planned and then...
A small reflection... yesterday (a.k.a. Thursday) morning, I came across a co-worker and we started the usual chatter but he goes on saying- I'm good but I just found out we're not Friday, that kidda killed my good mood. Like I said, just a reflection. How happy can you be when you're disappointed to find out you have one more day to live than you thought?
I bet you can find a common theme in this week’s post. In fact I know you’re that smart since you’re reading what I have to say! Kidding aside, positive change is something we should all continually seek, see Darren’s video to find out why. But positive change isn’t always easy to achieve on our own and that’s why learning to take advice, which often may seem irrational or strange, is critical to healthy positive growth as you’ll read in Neil’s article.
Last Monday was blue Monday, supposedly the most depressing day of the year. You know what else it was? Another day in your wonderful life. No matter the day of the week, of the month, of the year. We should always strive to make it the best day we can. Don't wish you were in the future or dream you could go back to the past. Today is where things are happening for you, make the most of it.
One week into the new year. I hope you still haven't dropped your resolutions, if you made any. If you didn't, now wouldn't be too late. As you'll see in Tony Robbins' video, making big improvements in your life doesn't necessarily requires big changes. Small habit changes over time will compound into massive improvements. The key here is consistency. I'm also sharing a great app to help with the consistency part. On that, great weekend to all. 2017 will be a great year!
It's the last day of 2016. Do you have your plan ready for 2017? Last week I've shared books I find helpful and today I'm sharing one tool to help you get the most of your new year resolutions. Plus the Canvas Strategy to help you get the right mindset for years to come. Enjoy, and see you next year!
We’re only a few days before Christmas and New Year just around the corner. What does that mean? First, use this time to spend quality time with your family and friends. Second, this is the time to reflect on what happened this year and to plan out next year.
Yesterday, I re-arranged my whole office library. So I decided to pick 3 books I’d recommend you read. All 3 books serve a different purpose so I’d recommend you read them in the order they’re presented.
It's been a very busy week for me, I admit the tricks in the double your productivity video helped me to not become overwhelmed. I found some neat health tricks from Dr. Mehmet Oz in my journal. And I'm loving the little bit of info I found on Instagram, I think I'm going to print it and display it somewhere.
As usual, here's a few gems of positive information I've found this week. Or in the case of the catcher's mitt metaphor a gem that I rediscovered. Great weekend to all!
Sometimes I get articles and videos from what people share on social media. But this week all people shared were comments on the US election. Nevertheless, within all the generalization, amateur analysis and political venting one thing stood out for me.
This week, I’m focusing on a single theme. Climbing. I’m no climber and when asked if I’d ever set climbing the Everest as a goal my response was “Hell no! I’m way too chicken for that!”
But I love climbing stories. There are many lessons to learn from mountain climbing and those who attempts to conquer the highest peaks on earth.
"Happiness is not an accident. Nor is it something you wish for. Happiness is something you design." - Jim Rohn
“Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much” - Oscar Wilde
Here's a short list, probably a reminder, of what it takes to build good character. Only 6 simple things but as with everything Jim Rohn teaches, simple in concept doesn't mean simple in execution.
Thank to everyone who subscribed to my Weekly Gems Newsletter. I hope you enjoy the weekly gems of wisdom and fun I share. I know I enjoy sharing them and I love hearing back from you.
Today (and every day for that matter) take some time to be thankful for everything you have. Because fear and anger cannot co-exist with appreciation and thankfulness. Make the choice to live a life of appreciation, it'll help you in difficult time and make everyday better.
It's only my 6th newsletter but I have to say the things I share in this one all have the potential of highly impacting and improving your life. It just amaze me the things we get access to, for free, in today's age. Just last Thuesday, I watched a complete Tony Robbins seminar live, for free. I know it's crazy! (I'll probably talk about this next week) But I digress, I hope you'll enjoy this week's Gems, take time to digest each one as they all offer great insights into living a better life.
I hope you're pumped for the weekend! From what I've uncovered this week, you'll won't be wishing for a great weekend but be ready to have it. Plus you'll see the benefit of paying attention to what you do, what you wear and how you talk just to name a few things. Have a super weekend!!!
The weekend is already here! This week’s topics are all about strengthening your inner self. Find courage to have courage and be confident in social settings. John C. Maxwell discuss the need to find motivation within. And finally, I propose an app to set things on fire… which would definitely relieve some stress!
This week is all about you, change, success, soaring and human resources. Yes, you read that right. I DARE talk about human resources on a Friday... I apologize for my evilness but read through and you'll see it's not all that bad.
A little bit of everything this week. This weekend is a good time to embrace your flawsomeness! While Tony Robbins discusses his morning ritual with Oprah.
A couple weeks ago I shared my list of favourite books that I read in 2015. I hope you enjoyed the list and got a few reading ideas from it. Now I’m always grabbing reading ideas everywhere. There's a thousand books, at least, I’d love to read.
My Hawaiian friend, Dennis, recently asked me if there were benefits to reading books versus articles or magazines. I thought it was an interesting questions since I read both books and magazines. I enjoy both but each offers me a different experience.
I want to share one of the most inspiring person I know. Jim Rohn. I honestly don't know a lot about him and his life journey. Only that he was broke at age 25 and rich at age 31 and then went on a journey to share his philosophy of success. But one thing I know for sure is that his life philosophy really resonate with me.
I'll share with you a three word statement which changed the way I did things day to day. I first heard it from a Joe Navaro conference I watched years ago. It really caught my attention and I started using the concept in my day to day life. But it's only a year later that I really saw the full potential of Navaro's statement.
Every successful person has one thing in common. They do hard work while unsuccessful people watch TV. Behind every success is hundreds of hours of tiny little tasks, often mundane and boring which accumulate to great things. I often find it hard to motivate myself to do those little tasks and you may have the same struggle. Following my 3 simple steps will help you become an accomplished achiever.