We all have highs and lows surrounded by ordinary living. We'd go crazy if we would always stay in either highs or lows. But many times, wouldn't it be great to be able to simply switch to your happy state, or focused state?
There are techniques for that. But before you can use any techniques to bring back any state or emotions, you first need to know how it feels to be in that state. You can't make this up. No matter how hard you try, you'll never really know how it feels to stand on the top of Mount Everest until you stand on top of Mount Everest.
Here are three things everyone should start to do
- Experience more
- Pay close attention to how you are feeling, especially when you feel great
- Take notes about those great experiences so that you can remember them and come back to them
For example, in my last article I discussed how passionate I was about my woodworking projects. This is a state I want to remember and will most probably come back to later.
Your subconscious mind works in a very interesting way. It's the part of you which guides where your attention goes when you don't pay attention. That is most of the time.
That's a lot of power given to the part of your mind you don't control. Or can you have control over it?
Let me show you with a personal story happening to me right now. In this very moment, I'm deeply excited about a woodworking project that I'm starting. I've watched videos, read tips and tricks, and looked at many ideas online and in stores. Most of my attention, voluntary attention, as gone to woodworking the past days.
So here's what happened.
Yesterday, it seems my subconscious caught up on what I wanted to focus on. Every time during the day that my conscious attention was going away, which is perfectly normal for everyone to drift away from consciousness every once in a while, my subconscious mind would attempt to guide my actions towards learning more about my woodworking project. For example, I'd needed to do a search on Google and you know the infinitely long 9 seconds it takes to open the browser and go to Google, that small lapse of time is just enough time to disconnect the conscious thinking. Your body is designed to save energy and conscious thinking takes up a lot of energy. So after waiting for eternity, a.k.a. 9 seconds, my subconscious mind takes over and types "DIY Woodworking Ideas" in the search box. It's only 10 minutes later that my conscious mind finally wakes up and says "Wait a minute, wasn't I supposed to search for something when I opened Google?"
It's a long story and you were probably screaming "WAKE UP!" at me. Of course, to you, it seemed like my mind was totally controlling me and I was day dreaming or something. You're most probably not into woodworking right now, my subconscious actions look bizarre and possibly dumb from your perspective.
I got engulfed in the woodworking search because that's what my general focus has been. The good thing is that it's a positive learning habit that I am happy my subconscious mind helps me with at the moment.
But the subconscious mind doesn't care about positive or negative habits. It only cares about guiding you where you want your attention to go.
What if you always put your attention on negative habits, like checking Social Media or worst gossiping or even worst complaining? What will your subconscious have you do when you drift away from consciousness, which we all do all the time?
The things you decide to consciously pay attention to greatly affect your subconscious and your future. Watch negative news and you'll see negativity everywhere. Read on celebrity gossips and you'll be seeking the same drama in your life. So be careful.
As Earl Nightingale puts it.
We become what we think about.
Starting new projects or endeavors is fun. We get all excited about what we can accomplish and how exciting it'll be once we've completed our new project. After a while things get a little complicated and our little project doesn't go as planned.
Or worst we simply put it off the later pile a.k.a. the never pile.
Why start something you know you won't finish?
If you know you're not going to go through the tough part of your grand plan, why start it?
Make sure everything you start that you know you'll have the energy, time and motivation to see it through. This means starting fewer things and saying no to many other things.
Quit before you start. Start only what really matters.
There are two negative reactions I often see when people talk about improving their life.
First is the assumption that people who wants to improve are unhappy with themselves. Improvement shouldn't be seen as an attempt to get ourselves out of an unwanted place. It's the joy of improving and getting better which makes humans happy. There's a sense of joy which comes out of accomplishments.
Nowadays focus is becoming harder and harder to reach. We have distractions all around us fighting for our attention. How to find focus with so much noise around us?
The first thing to do in order to achieve focus is to prioritize yourself. To find ways to disconnect, you need to let go of the world around you.
A small reflection... yesterday (a.k.a. Thursday) morning, I came across a co-worker and we started the usual chatter but he goes on saying- I'm good but I just found out we're not Friday, that kidda killed my good mood. Like I said, just a reflection. How happy can you be when you're disappointed to find out you have one more day to live than you thought?
Last Monday was blue Monday, supposedly the most depressing day of the year. You know what else it was? Another day in your wonderful life. No matter the day of the week, of the month, of the year. We should always strive to make it the best day we can. Don't wish you were in the future or dream you could go back to the past. Today is where things are happening for you, make the most of it.
One week into the new year. I hope you still haven't dropped your resolutions, if you made any. If you didn't, now wouldn't be too late. As you'll see in Tony Robbins' video, making big improvements in your life doesn't necessarily requires big changes. Small habit changes over time will compound into massive improvements. The key here is consistency. I'm also sharing a great app to help with the consistency part. On that, great weekend to all. 2017 will be a great year!
It's the last day of 2016. Do you have your plan ready for 2017? Last week I've shared books I find helpful and today I'm sharing one tool to help you get the most of your new year resolutions. Plus the Canvas Strategy to help you get the right mindset for years to come. Enjoy, and see you next year!
All gems from this week can be used in many ways to make 2017 a better year. With 2016 coming to an end soon, it's time to start pondering on how we want to shape our next year. It's important to start thinking about that and not let another year to simply pass by.
This morning I was pondering over the process of life improvement. When I look back at my life (years and years back), I can see how far I've traveled. Not a round the world but within myself. How much I've improved. I thought about all that I've done to change so much over the years. It's simpler than you think.
Hall of fame coach, John Wooden, is front page of the Success magazine for the month of November, his life philosophy is one of the best you'll find based on passion, harmony, wisdom and love. I've seen a lot on him in the past weeks and like what I'm hearing. I particularly love his definition of success, which you can read below, because it's personal to each individual and doesn't include any reference to wealth or status. His definition of success is applicable to anyone, no matter the circumstance.
Sometimes I get articles and videos from what people share on social media. But this week all people shared were comments on the US election. Nevertheless, within all the generalization, amateur analysis and political venting one thing stood out for me.
This week, I’m focusing on a single theme. Climbing. I’m no climber and when asked if I’d ever set climbing the Everest as a goal my response was “Hell no! I’m way too chicken for that!”
But I love climbing stories. There are many lessons to learn from mountain climbing and those who attempts to conquer the highest peaks on earth.
“Always forgive your enemies; nothing annoys them so much” - Oscar Wilde
Here's a short list, probably a reminder, of what it takes to build good character. Only 6 simple things but as with everything Jim Rohn teaches, simple in concept doesn't mean simple in execution.
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Today (and every day for that matter) take some time to be thankful for everything you have. Because fear and anger cannot co-exist with appreciation and thankfulness. Make the choice to live a life of appreciation, it'll help you in difficult time and make everyday better.
I hope you're pumped for the weekend! From what I've uncovered this week, you'll won't be wishing for a great weekend but be ready to have it. Plus you'll see the benefit of paying attention to what you do, what you wear and how you talk just to name a few things. Have a super weekend!!!
The weekend is already here! This week’s topics are all about strengthening your inner self. Find courage to have courage and be confident in social settings. John C. Maxwell discuss the need to find motivation within. And finally, I propose an app to set things on fire… which would definitely relieve some stress!
This week is all about you, change, success, soaring and human resources. Yes, you read that right. I DARE talk about human resources on a Friday... I apologize for my evilness but read through and you'll see it's not all that bad.
A little bit of everything this week. This weekend is a good time to embrace your flawsomeness! While Tony Robbins discusses his morning ritual with Oprah.
A couple weeks ago I shared my list of favourite books that I read in 2015. I hope you enjoyed the list and got a few reading ideas from it. Now I’m always grabbing reading ideas everywhere. There's a thousand books, at least, I’d love to read.
Negativity will kill your hopes for a better life. Just imagine planting two trees, one with full exposure to the morning sun and the benefit of the rain and a second tree where it’s covered in shadows most of the day and only some water find its way to nourish the roots.
I want to share one of the most inspiring person I know. Jim Rohn. I honestly don't know a lot about him and his life journey. Only that he was broke at age 25 and rich at age 31 and then went on a journey to share his philosophy of success. But one thing I know for sure is that his life philosophy really resonate with me.
When we were kids we all relied on our parents to validate who we were. To tell us our good and bad sides. To love and nurture us. But as adults these needs keeps us from growing further. Relying on others to fulfill our lives will not only slow your own growth but it will also push away your friends.
I'll share with you a three word statement which changed the way I did things day to day. I first heard it from a Joe Navaro conference I watched years ago. It really caught my attention and I started using the concept in my day to day life. But it's only a year later that I really saw the full potential of Navaro's statement.
Every successful person has one thing in common. They do hard work while unsuccessful people watch TV. Behind every success is hundreds of hours of tiny little tasks, often mundane and boring which accumulate to great things. I often find it hard to motivate myself to do those little tasks and you may have the same struggle. Following my 3 simple steps will help you become an accomplished achiever.
Here's a very very short list of books I think everyone should read. Of course, it is not the only books you have to read and this is my list of books to read now. Next year I'll have a new list, because life is evolving. I think the following three books have one thing in common, they'll all change the way you see life in there very unique way.