The moment you step out into the world and interact with others your actions and you will be judged. Both positively and negatively. Either way, there's not much you can do about it once you hear those comments afterward. What's done is done, right? Yes, but why do we get defensive when faced with negative comments and worry so much about what people may think?
The need to justify yourself is a bad feeling which only affects you in negative ways. It creates conflicts with others and increases anxiety level. Why do we feel the need to justify our actions?
There are many reasons but the biggest contributing reason is low self-esteem. If you find yourself being defensive, try to see why and most of the time you'll find that need to be understood and accepted by others. It's a very common reaction and in fact, acceptance is sought by everyone.
The cure is simple in the case of low self-esteem when facing reactions from actions you have done. Simply do the following...
Do your best with good intentions. Then forget the rest.
If you know you've done your best, no comments on your efforts can bother you because you've done all you could. Remember a time when you became very defensive and chances are that you defended something you know you could have done better.
Next part is with act good intentions. Same principle as above, if you know that within your knowledge you did all you did with good intention then no comments on your motives or plan can touch you.
Finally, forget the rest. The important thing is to act, no action is going to please everyone. From the start, know this truth. It will liberate you from anything that may arise later.
As a final word, remember that others are allowed their opinions. Most of the time these opinions are not meant to harm you but to help you become better. Remember they're just that, opinions. You decide what to do with them. One thing's sure, they won't bother you anymore.
If there's one skill everyone should work on consistently is to learn to start from a blank page. We all have the required creativity in us to create outstanding things but we are scared to create. Instead, we use templates or copy from somebody else (with minor adjustments of course) because it feels safe. Safe because if what we produce fails then it's not really our creation. Our fault.
The problem is that it cannot truly succeed either. In order to make a difference, you have to create. And the best way to create is to start with a blank canvas.
Gather information, read, watch, and observe from as many sources as you can and then put it all together in your own personal way.
Set forth on your own journey.
Create your own life, not someone else's life.
One of the great skill to learn in the 21st century is the ability to start from a blank canvas. Meaning, doing your own thinking. Every great innovations during the last 15 years were born from completely new ideas which disrupted the status quo.
Leaders of the 21st century are those with the ability to construct new ideas from emerging technologies and connections.
Make it a habit of exploring and developing your own ideas. Sure, look around for inspiration but start from a blank slate.
To practice your creativity, instead of reading blog posts of top 6 rules for happiness or 8 ways to lose weight. Make up your own lists. You'll be surprise to often end up with better lists than the ones you find on the web.
Small gestures get recognize. When someone around you does a little something special for you, I sure hope you thank them for their attention and service.
Other times you do those little things for others and receive that little praise. Bizarrely, we often don't know how to respond to that kind of positive feedback.
It's been a very busy week for me, I admit the tricks in the double your productivity video helped me to not become overwhelmed. I found some neat health tricks from Dr. Mehmet Oz in my journal. And I'm loving the little bit of info I found on Instagram, I think I'm going to print it and display it somewhere.
All gems from this week can be used in many ways to make 2017 a better year. With 2016 coming to an end soon, it's time to start pondering on how we want to shape our next year. It's important to start thinking about that and not let another year to simply pass by.
Hall of fame coach, John Wooden, is front page of the Success magazine for the month of November, his life philosophy is one of the best you'll find based on passion, harmony, wisdom and love. I've seen a lot on him in the past weeks and like what I'm hearing. I particularly love his definition of success, which you can read below, because it's personal to each individual and doesn't include any reference to wealth or status. His definition of success is applicable to anyone, no matter the circumstance.
Sometimes I get articles and videos from what people share on social media. But this week all people shared were comments on the US election. Nevertheless, within all the generalization, amateur analysis and political venting one thing stood out for me.
I hope you're pumped for the weekend! From what I've uncovered this week, you'll won't be wishing for a great weekend but be ready to have it. Plus you'll see the benefit of paying attention to what you do, what you wear and how you talk just to name a few things. Have a super weekend!!!
I want to share one of the most inspiring person I know. Jim Rohn. I honestly don't know a lot about him and his life journey. Only that he was broke at age 25 and rich at age 31 and then went on a journey to share his philosophy of success. But one thing I know for sure is that his life philosophy really resonate with me.